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What we know with abusive parents is
And if a child has grown up and
that it doesn’t matter what you end up
hasn’t had that secure love that can be
doing, no matter what this child does,
really intoxicating, to have that level of
the cycle will always come back to
love.
where they get abused again and so
these kids never really feel that they
That’s right, especially when they
have got it right because you never win
want to escape their family. You’ve got
with abusers. It becomes normal for
this vulnerable person who is trying to
that child to believe that they are
get away from a situation where
shameful and faulty and not as good as
they’ve been neglected and, as human
everybody else, that they’re not
beings, we need to connect to others to
loveable so then when an abusive man
survive, it’s part of our survival
comes along, they are prime targets
instinct.
because what the man does is love
bomb that person. They choose
We are herd animals, we don’t
someone who will fall for them and not
go around by ourselves, we need other
question them when they throw this
humans to survive and so, by nature,
ridiculous love at them at the
we are looking to find our herd, to stay
beginning.
within a pack and to stay safe and so
when someone is offering that and
It’s a technique they all use- show this
saying I love you and you’re everything
amazing side, incredibly romantic,
to me, you are different to other girls,
loveable and loving, charming to
it’s that whole thing of where you are
everybody. It’s a side they will often
so exceptional, you are special. In that
bring out whenever they meet people
way they are coercing a certain type of
for the first time and they’re trying to
behaviour from a girl, right from the
impress that person.
beginning. You’re special because
