CCChat April 2025.pdf - Flipbook - Page 50
Develop relationships with people
who are securely attached
Being in a relationship with another
person who also has an insecure
attachment style can make it volatile,
confusing, unhealthy or destructive.
While it is possible to work through
your insecurities together as a couple.
It can help to look for a partner with a
secure attachment style to help shift
you away from the negative patterns
of thinking and behaving.
A strong, supportive relationship with
someone who makes you feel loved
can play an important part in building
your sense of security.
Research suggests that 50 - 60% of
people have a secure attachment
style, therefore 40 - 50% don’t, which
makes it more important to
understand your own attachment
style so you look for a partner with
whom you can form a secure
attachment.
Resolve any childhood trauma
Experiencing trauma as an infant or
young child can interrupt the
attachment and bonding process.
Childhood trauma can result from
anything that impacts your sense of
safety, such as an unsafe or unstable
home environment, separation from
your main caregiver, serious illness,
neglect, or abuse. When childhood
trauma is not resolved, feelings of
insecurity, fear, and helplessness can
continue into adulthood.
Even if your trauma happened many
years ago, there are things you can do
to overcome pain, regain your
emotional balance, and learn to trust
and connect in relationships again.
Similarly, developing strong
friendships with individuals who have
a secure attachment can also help
you recognise and adopt new
patterns of behaviour.
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